Engage Or Observe? 3 things to remember when discussing politics online

I don’t know about you but I’m worn out, wrung out and hung out to dry since the inauguration. Opinions, judgements, and facts and (ahem) – “alternative facts” – are flying around social media all the time, but particularly now when truth seems to be a casualty of today’s political scene. It’s difficult not to […]

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Your Child Is Acting Out…What Can You Do?

As a child counselor, one of the most frequent reasons parents bring their kids to me is behavior issues in school and at home. And academic issues. And social issues. These wise parents understand that their child is struggling with something, and I am happy to help! In my office, I help by offering a […]

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Let’s Just Toss Out The Word Dysfunctional, Shall We?

In all my time as a parent, as a child caregiver, as a healer and counselor, I have heard the word (and used it myself, often) “dysfunctional.”  It is used to describe families that aren’t “good enough” to put it simply. But what it actually means is a family or parenting that DOESN’T FUNCTION. I […]

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FEB. 6th, 10am! Empathy, Discipline and Connection with your Child – One More Time!

Register here: I’m going to hold this webinar another time. I’ve heard from several that weren’t able to attend, and I figured, why not? So if you didn’t get a chance to attend before, don’t miss this opportunity! Please register for Empathy, Discipline and Connection With Your Child on Feb 6, 2016 10:00 AM PST […]

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The Tattoo On My Back

I like things integrated. Growing up, my parents even worked to start a school where the subjects were integrated, and later valuing a different school where the students were integrated racially and economically. So it is ingrained in me to look for integration, and I ran towards The Evergreen State College’s unique learning integrated approach, […]

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We Need To Talk About “Sexting”

But I wish we didn’t have to. Sexting, or sex texting, is an uncomfortable topic for any parent, and if you’ve found explicit texts or photos on your teen’s phone you already know this. Finding the balance between delivering consequences in a healthy way and not losing your temper can be extremely difficult. You can see […]

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Green Therapy!

I have read a few really thoughtful and comprehensive articles recently that have made me excited for developing new ways of helping people in my practice. “The Overprotected Kid” was quite long, but takes the reader on a journey that starts at “The Land”, a free play area in Wales that has very few rules, very […]

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Sliding into Mediocrity?

A few days ago I read an article  in Brain, Child Magazine that caught my attention and spoke to me. Nina Badzin wrote about how over-the-top our compliments, praise and exclamations in general are becoming. Using several exclamation points, for instance, instead of just one. That doing this scales the one exclamation point to practically […]

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Hard is Not Relative. Hard is Hard.

Sometimes my clients minimize their struggles, and try and tell me that their childhood wasn’t that bad, so really, they shouldn’t be there whining about it. There are such worse things that could have happened, and people going through so much worse, and they ask, “Who am I to complain?” I tell them everyone has their […]

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