My Toxic Relationship: Chocolate Cake, All Day, Every Day

Ten years ago today I left a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship. I could share details of the good times, the times when I felt more seen and cherished than I ever had, the ways we laughed, and how the sex was so great, and how we shared the quiet peace of canoeing the cove. I […]

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My Father Held The Waters That Raised Me

My father held the waters that raised me. I read about the waters of the Mother, the womb, the breast, the blood of life. But the waters that raised me ran through my father’s fingers as he held my hands and pulled me up each time a wave crashed into the shore, and lowered me down […]

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Engage Or Observe? 3 things to remember when discussing politics online

I don’t know about you but I’m worn out, wrung out and hung out to dry since the inauguration. Opinions, judgements, and facts and (ahem) – “alternative facts” – are flying around social media all the time, but particularly now when truth seems to be a casualty of today’s political scene. It’s difficult not to […]

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What do you do when your child doesn’t want to hug Grammy?

I was recently asked by a friend if I agreed with this article, about supporting children to decide who and when to hug someone. I remembered times when a distant relative would be visiting and would swoop down on me, wrap me up in unfamiliar smells, skin, and affection, and I’d stiffen, and wait for […]

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I’m really angry. This is why.

Have you ever just had a week where all the Things To Be Mad about just pile up? But pretty much you can manage your stress okay because none of it directly affects you or someone close to you? But then, BAM, something happens to tip the scale. Yeah, that happened to me today. Luckily, […]

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What Is The “Right” Way To Live?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how the planet and our way of life is changing. Climate, hurried, busy lives, debt, stress and pressure. It’s taking it’s toll. Not all of it is negative change, of course. We have new technologies that are improving lives all over the place, connecting us, and offering opportunities that […]

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What Children Are Teaching Us

I grew up in a family of educators. My earliest memories include walking with my dad after school hours in the silent, old hallways of the high school he worked at, playing with the variety of highlighters and paper he gave me to bide my time while he did some work on the weekends. He […]

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Your Child Is Acting Out…What Can You Do?

As a child counselor, one of the most frequent reasons parents bring their kids to me is behavior issues in school and at home. And academic issues. And social issues. These wise parents understand that their child is struggling with something, and I am happy to help! In my office, I help by offering a […]

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Zootopia. And Dreams CAN Come True.

My husband and I are going to see Zootopia tonight. Reviews are continuing to come in positive, and I have watched this film unfold for the last few years, and have gotten super stoked about it! Let me tell you a really cool story. Once upon a time, there was this young man, an artist, […]

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Do You Keep Hearing About the ACE’s Study?

No? Well, it’s important. To all of us. Those of us with children, and those who, well….once were children. It stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences. This is a great article that discusses the history of the study, and how it was discovered that what happens to us in childhood matters far more than mainstream science knew. […]

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