Super article on how much body-shaming there is in the world, from and to all different types of bodies. This is specifically through the lens of a yoga instructor, but it applies to anyone, anywhere, with some adjustments according to your own experience. And this article, showing how we’ve been duped by the medical/health industry with the whole BMI crap.
I am grateful that I’ve surrounded myself with a community where I don’t experience this, although I absolutely have in the past whether it be about my lack of make-up, my larger belly, or my breast size. But CrossFit Wenatchee and b e y o u t i f u l HOT YOGA both are places that are inclusive and where body shapes are just not a thing.
But I still see, so often, things come up on my newsfeed that say “real women have curves” or “THIS (curvy woman) is more attractive than THIS (thin woman)”. I know it’s an attempt to counter “thin is the only way you can be beautiful”. Or even “strong is the new skinny” or “It doesn’t matter what your body shape is, as long as your healthy!” But what it’s actually doing is saying a naturally thin woman is not “real” or attractive. It’s objectifying women who have curves, but let’s be honest, it isn’t saying obese people are attractive because “that’s not healthy.” What it’s still doing is comparing this body with that body and judging one to be better than another.
Honestly, why do we even need to discuss it? LET’S STOP COMPARING OUR BODIES TO OTHER BODIES. Bodies are bodies. They come in all shapes and sizes. They come in all abilities and all levels of health. You know what I think is beautiful? Authenticity. Kindness. Compassion. Love and Care for Self. And when someone doesn’t have those, I don’t think of them as ugly, I think of them as wounded. And wounded people don’t need to be told they are ugly, or that they’re NOT beautiful or lovable. Wounded people need to hear that they’re okay just the way they are. That they are lovable just because they ARE. Some people are too wounded and are not safe to be around, and some need to be held accountable for their actions if they’ve hurt others. And that’s when I hold them in my heart, gentle thoughts for them and all who love them, to find peace in their hearts and healing for their highest good.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.