My Toxic Relationship: Chocolate Cake, All Day, Every Day

Ten years ago today I left a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship. I could share details of the good times, the times when I felt more seen and cherished than I ever had, the ways we laughed, and how the sex was so great, and how we shared the quiet peace of canoeing the cove. I … [Read more…]

My “Calling” Dumped Me. Here’s What Happened.

It’s no secret that I’ve been struggling somewhat (okay, full stop honesty, a LOT) since I was let go from my part time position as a Trauma Therapist at a local crisis agency six months ago, followed a few months later by closing my private practice as a family and child play therapist. It is … [Read more…]

Saving My Life: What I Haven’t Told You Till Now

I am an athlete, but most people in our culture today wouldn’t guess that by looking at me. I am not the image on “fitspiration” memes or ads for health drinks or diet – err…scratch that, I mean lifestyle  – ads. (And really, if you aren’t 20’s to mid-30’s, white skinned or a maybe a … [Read more…]

My Father Held The Waters That Raised Me

My father held the waters that raised me. I read about the waters of the Mother, the womb, the breast, the blood of life. But the waters that raised me ran through my father’s fingers as he held my hands and pulled me up each time a wave crashed into the shore, and lowered me down … [Read more…]

Mirror, Mirror….When You Are The Bully

I’ve seen a few different posts on Facebook in the last few weeks, where people were mocking and making fun of what someone else, or another group of people didn’t know. Or were mocking the feelings of what someone else was feeling.   If you remove the specifics, as I have above, it’s just people … [Read more…]

What do you do when your child doesn’t want to hug Grammy?

I was recently asked by a friend if I agreed with this article, about supporting children to decide who and when to hug someone. I remembered times when a distant relative would be visiting and would swoop down on me, wrap me up in unfamiliar smells, skin, and affection, and I’d stiffen, and wait for … [Read more…]

I’m really angry. This is why.

Have you ever just had a week where all the Things To Be Mad about just pile up? But pretty much you can manage your stress okay because none of it directly affects you or someone close to you? But then, BAM, something happens to tip the scale. Yeah, that happened to me today. Luckily, … [Read more…]

What Is The “Right” Way To Live?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how the planet and our way of life is changing. Climate, hurried, busy lives, debt, stress and pressure. It’s taking it’s toll. Not all of it is negative change, of course. We have new technologies that are improving lives all over the place, connecting us, and offering opportunities that … [Read more…]